Of course, I would say that I am purely concerned about other people and I certainly am, but I would be lying if I said that I am not at all concerned about myself. Surely everyone somehow wants to get confirmation that you have something to say or that your words or actions matter to someone. When I admit this I don’t feel proud of it but I don't feel like hypocrisy either. This doesn't take away from the fact that I sincerely think you may benefit from the content here. I just have to keep going and not overthink these things, as usual.
I am not saying that everything I say is THE truth. It is my interpretation of my life and they arise from my background and experiences. I find it incredibly comforting to know that not everything I say is necessarily true. It would be exhausting, having to be the omniscient narrator. Besides, the framework we have of something that makes us say, "And so it is," is a limitation. As a result, you can no longer just see -what is- because in a sense you already have the outcome in your head of what it should be, so you are no longer receptive. Am I going too far? I don't have a specific example here or anything, but how nice would it be if it is not all completely fixed? Everything is just -as it is. And I don't have to judge that all the time.
Because what good is judgment? If you judge, it's based on your background and experiences, but they can't be compared to anyone else's, can they? If everyone is different and looks at things with different glasses, then what is true? I think everything is true because it is not fixed. But at the same time, nothing is true either. Is this annoying? It's a world lot easier to accept things as well.
Yin and yang are 1. The light can not show itself without the dark. We need both in order for the other to exist. So our differentiation of right, and not right, complicates a lot of things. Because it 'belonged' that way so that didn't belong there. Why is that? Who determines that it belonged that way? Maybe it's just a possibility to show what you're made of.
There are things like manners and ‘appropriate’ ways to not disturb good order and I would certainly like to pursue that. It is good for yourself and for the peace in your mind to follow the guidelines so you’ll not be against unity but what if you just don't? What if you don't like policies or don’t agree with the things you’ve been told? Are you then wrong? Do you then no longer belong to the unity and prefer to put yourself in separation from that which demands something of you? Or perhaps you have a lesson to learn and you decide when and if you want to learn that lesson.
As far as I am concerned, everyone, really everyone whatever they do, belongs to ‘the whole’. Life is all-encompassing and certain actions involve certain consequences. Those are in your control, at least the causes of the consequences. I am keeping it very general here, otherwise, you might think I am criticizing something specific but it is not like that. Everything is super relative, it depends on the situation and the person you are dealing with. But you always have the choice of how you are going to react. I can scream that it's not like that and that I'm annoyed with the other person or I can respectfully explain how I see it. I have a different view, a different background and even though your opinion is completely true -for you, my opinion is also completely true -for me. And who is going to say what is right? Isn't the truth somewhere in the middle?
"I think the most important thing is to find out how we move forward together. Keep communicating without prejudice. What has helped me in conflicts is approaching someone as if there is no past, only now. Every time a fresh start, a clean slate. Resentment can be incredibly sticky and it makes us heavy. It literally sticks to your contented soul. Let it go, with or without the actual person there, but bless it, forgive it. We saw it differently, so be it. You will be free. Lighter. Embrace that which you may have rejected."
Accepting that
what is
